Secret sex chat sites
Getting Help I've worked with many individuals who have developed obsessions with online sex chat rooms, Internet pornography or other forms of sexual addiction.
There are no quick fixes for these types of problems, and part of the work, initially, is helping clients to develop the ability to regulate their emotions and develop the capacity to persevere so they can overcome their problems, as opposed to looking for an external quick fix.
But there are still a percentage who remain only externally motivated and they approach treatment like "mandated clients." Developing As An Individual and Within a Couple For clients who want to change, the work begins by centering around recognizing boredom as a trigger for their acting out behavior.
Once they can accept that boredom is a trigger, instead of acting out they need to learn to "act in" the relationship.
I am a licensed NYC psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR therapist, and Somatic Experiencing therapist.
One of the major problems with participating in online sex chat rooms is that this activity often becomes obsessive, so that participants either need to do it more often or they need to engage in riskier behavior to feel sexually gratified by the experience.All of the clients that I've seen for this problem have been men.But it's understood that this isn't just a problem for men.Instead of trying to repair their marriage, they seek excitement on the online sex chat rooms.These chat rooms represent a quick fix to their boredom in terms of providing instant sexual excitement--without ever having to leave the house.
They're coming because their spouse has given them the ultimatum, but they're not internally motivated.