I don’t know what scared me more.  The fact that the impulse to get rid of the bouquet disappears as quickly as it comes and I find myself cradling the flowers like a baby out of fear that someone will try to take them from me, or the look of sheer horror on Carter’s face when my eyes find his again.

14.  Porn and Snozzberries

My best friend has been gone on her honeymoon for a week and I feel lost.  I need someone to talk to.  I’m sure I could have called her if it was an emergency, but trying to explain to her that I think Carter thinks I want to get married and I think it’s got him freaked out while she’s lying on a beach in Maui would probably be wrong.

“Hey, Liz!  How’s the honeymoon?  Oh that’s wonderful!  Speaking of wonderful, I think Carter is afraid I want to get married, so I’ve been trying to let him know I don’t really want to get married when secretly it’s all I can think about but it scares the holy fucking hell out of me.”

Yeah, that makes perfect sense.

All I’ve been able to think about for the past few days is the look on Carter’s face when I catch the bouquet.  He looks like he did the day he met Gavin and got kicked in the nuts.  And who knows what the hell my problem is.  Suddenly I'm crying during an episode of “A Wedding Story” on TLC and thinking the bride is totally justified in refinancing her house to pay for a third wedding dress with the Swarovski crystals on “Bridezillas”.

I had woke up the other day at four in the morning because I didn’t want Carter to know I set the DVR so I could see if the girl from New Jersey on “My Fair Wedding” let her fiancé dress up like a Yeti and sing John Denver songs at the rehearsal dinner.  Carter came home from work a few minutes early and I jumped up from the couch in shock and turned off the television as fast as I could.

“Hey, what are you doing up?” Carter asked.  He set his work bag down on the floor and walked over to the middle of the living room to pick up the blanket I dumped on the floor in my haste to shut off the TV.

“Um…uh…nothing.  I wasn’t watching anything,” I stammered, looking nervously back and forth between the TV and Carter.

He raised an eyebrow at me and looked down at the remote in my hand where my finger was still poised above the power button.

His eyes slowly moved back up to my face that was now covered in a thin sheen of sweat from my nerves going haywire.  I could feel my cheeks heating up and knew he must be wondering why they were turning red if I had nothing to hide.

He was going to know I recorded “Say Yes to the Dress: Atlanta”.  I couldn’t just be happy with Kleinfeld’s.  Oh no, I had to get greedy and see what people bought from Bridals by Lori.

Carter turned to look at the TV again and then back to me, his eyes suddenly going wide.

“Oh my gosh.  Claire, were you watching-”

“No!” I interrupted him.  “I wasn’t watching anything.”

I laughed nervously and looked down at the remote in my hand, chucking it onto the couch so fast you would have thought it burned me.

“Holy hell…yes you were,” he said as he stared at me in awe.

I had no idea what was going on but if he was this happy that he caught me watching the wedding channel then maybe we didn’t have as big a problem as I thought.

“It’s okay. You don’t have to be embarrassed.  It’s actually kind of hot.”

I looked at Carter like he was insane.  And maybe he was.  Maybe working all these late nights finally got to him.  While I stood there half awake in my yoga pants and tank top, hair all askew, face flushed and embarrassed, he stared me up and down like he wanted to devour me.  I had started to ask him what he was talking about and why he was looking at me that way when it had suddenly occurred to me. Four in the morning and I had been sitting in the living room under a blanket all alone looking like I just had a very fulfilling romp in the hay…with myself.

“OH MY GOD!  You think I was watching-”

“Honey, really, it’s fine!  You don’t have to be freaked out.  Everyone watches a little porn now and then.  I just wish you would have waited for me,” he said with a leer.

So there’s that.  My boyfriend thinks I’m a closet porn watcher, that I sit alone in the dark while he’s at work every night watching Skinemax and diddling myself.  There’s something wrong with me if I’d rather he think I had a porn addiction than a deep seeded need to find out if David Tutera could turn a camo, guns, and ATV wedding into a masterpiece.

To try and deter him from my fake inclination toward porn benders, alone in the dark on the couch, and to try and erase the memory in my mind of the sheer look of terror on his face at Liz and Jim’s wedding when I had caught the bouquet, I’ve decided reverse psychology is the best route to go.  It works well on kids.  And men are pretty much giant babies most of the time anyway, so I figure I’ve got a fighting chance at getting things back to normal between us.  Ever since the wedding he’s gone back to being on edge and jittery around me.  I think he’s afraid he’s going to wake up one morning strapped to the bed in a tux with me standing over him in a wedding dress, waving a sledge hammer over my head Kathy Bates-style, threatening to smash in his kneecaps if he doesn’t marry me.

He should be more concerned with my father doing that, frankly.

I start off slow by telling him I absolutely don’t believe that whole tradition that whoever catches the bride’s bouquet is the next to marry.  I believe I might have used the words hogwash and twaddle in that conversation to bring my point home.  But Carter thinks I said twat and then it turns into an afternoon of him saying, “Twat did you say?  I cunt hear you.  Let’s see if I can finger it out,” while I try to show him just how unconcerned with this custom I am by throwing the bouquet away.  The beautiful gerbera daisy, orchid, and lily nosegay that looks stunning in my hand.

Shut up. “The Wedding Planner” had been on the other night and Jennifer Lopez taught me what a nosegay is.  I had also learned that Alex, the hot doctor from “Grey’s Anatomy”, isn’t so hot when he’s playing a guy a few fries short a Happy Meal with a shitty Italian accent.  And also, the guy from the Magic Bullet infomercial looks a lot like Nigel from “So You Think You Can Dance”.  Also, late night television should be illegal in all fifty states and maybe I really would be better off watching “Sweet Home I’ll-a-Slam-Ya” or “Driving Into Miss Daisy”.

“Claire, what the hell is your problem?  You’ve been moping around all day,” Jenny says as she comes out of the office of the shop with some invoices for me to sign in her hand.

I jump at the sound of her voice and realize I’ve been dipping the same pretzel in chocolate for the past twenty minutes.

Liz might not be here, but at least I have someone to bounce my thoughts off of.

“Carter thinks I have a porn addiction,” I blurt out.

“Ooooooh me too!” she replies with glee.

My mouth dropped opens and I stare at her in shock.

“Oh no!  I don’t mean I think you have a porn addiction.  Well, not that I know of.  I mean Drew thinks I have a porn addiction too.  We’re like twinsies!”

Yeah, I don’t think so.

“I have a membership to a porn-of-the-month club.  It’s kind of like a jelly-of-the-month club except you don’t get jelly.  And I can’t tell my mom about it.  The porn, not the jelly.  She likes jelly so I could tell her about that.  I just got ‘Weapons of Ass Destruction’ and ‘Forest Hump’. Sex is like your box on my cock-o-late,” she says in her best Forest Gump voice.  “We should totally watch that one together!”